“It’s a noble thing… to try to improve yourself but my view of you is that you’re quite remarkable already. So, while I think trying to improve yourself is just fine, thinking you’re not okay isn’t,” he said.

At this point my head started to spin.  It finally made sense and it’s not like I haven’t been told this sort of thing before…I’d just never thought of it quite like that.  I’ve always thought that if I was working on changing (a/k/a improving) that it must be because something was wrong.with.me.  I’ve been trying to fix something that was “broken”, not just trying to improve on something that’s existing.

Talk about a tough place to start – broken person trying to fix the broken person. If only I could find the right button, lever, etc., I could fix everything.  But I’ve been looking for years.  10 years to be exact.

Perhaps, just perhaps….there’s nothing broken.

This doesn’t mean that I can’t work on myself…
But it does mean that I’m okay.

That really feels like a novel idea.

I’m okay.
“Remarkable” even.

Imagine that.

“You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.”
~M. Oliver